(I actually wrote this years ago)

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I don’t generally let this stuff get to me too much, or even try to talk about it, but today I felt weak and got angry.

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I drove past the Planned Parenthood building, parking lot engulfed in Pro-Lifers, ready to pounce on anyone brave enough to enter. And it made me angry. It is so easy to take your stand and feel empowered by yelling at and berating women who are already feeling bad about themselves. But I wish you did a little more research and thinking before you do your yelling.

“If you don’t want a child then use a condom”? Tell that to the ones who used condoms and they failed.

Tell that to the young university student who got raped and received no help because people said, “she was asking for it”, “she shouldn’t have dressed like that”, “we can’t take away the future success of our star football players.” Does your pro-life organization fund the post trauma therapy for that rape victim? Or make up for the loss of education she will face because she is pregnant? Or make up for the lack of child support she will need without the child’s father?

“If you don’t want a child then just put it up for adoption”? Does your pro-life organization fund adoptee trauma therapy, which good, bad, or indifferent, is inevitable and 100% guranteed to happen? Does your pro-life organization fund the funeral costs that the 1 in 4 adoptee’s parents will be faced with when their adopted child commits suicide? Do you even care that that is in exact opposition to the argument of pro-life?

Does your pro-life organization pay for the added therapy this woman will need when she comes face-to-face with your mob yelling at her that she is a horrible person and that she needs to let the baby live, the one thing that is a glaring reminder of the horrible thing that happened to her? Are you going to help these women in the future to ensure that their babies are healthy and well provided for, because you didn’t seem to think that a woman who knows she can’t provide for a child is capable of making the best choice?

And don’t think I don’t understand the cost. My birth father wanted me aborted, and my mother chose not to. She had me, but was unable to provide for me, and put me up for adoption. And now she is happily married and I have a half brother, and none of her family even know I exist. And while I know that I am lucky to have lived and have a loving family, it does not negate the fact that I have a lot of adoption trauma that has effected me and my relationships for the greater part of my life.

I don’t necessarily think abortion is always right, but I whole heartedly believe that a woman should have the right to choose.  You don’t know her. You don’t know her story or her life. You don’t know where she comes from. You don’t even know her name. Who are you to think you have the right to tell her what to do.